The Discipline of the Lord

In today’s letter to the Hebrews we read, “My son, do not disdain the discipline of the Lord or lose heart when reproved by him; for whom the Lord loves, he disciplines; he scourges every son he acknowledges.”  Endure your trials as “discipline”; God treats you as sons.   For what “son” is there whom his father does not discipline?”  Today we have lost this sense of discipline.  We do whatever we can to run from suffering or pain, it does not matter what that pain is, we try to avoid it.  I would not recommend running towards suffering or wishing it, the suffering I am talking about here is the suffering of discipline.

When I was a young child and teenager it was the teacher, coach, mentor, priest, who was right 99% of the time when it came to me and my friends being disciplined, corrected and even punished by them, not to mention the second punishment we received upon returning home.  It was a very rare occasion indeed when a parent would take the side of the child, basically 1% of the time.  Today, however the pendulum has swung to almost the child or teenager being right 99% of the time and the teacher, coach, mentor, priest, etc. being right only 1% of the time.  Forgive me I exaggerate, but you get the point.

It is as almost that we do not want anyone to feel any pain whatsoever.  We do not want a child to be cut from his or her team during tryouts, or for the child to accept and learn from a failing grade, or for the child to be held accountable among adults.  Isn’t good to allow a child to feel a little humility, some guilt, some wrestling with oneself and others in order to become a more virtuous person from learning from their mistakes.  Anytime a parent complains to a coach about their child’s playing time, or complain to a teacher about a grade or to the priest that their child must receive Confirmation this year even though they have not had Religious Education for three years, only because their friends are receiving this year does an injustice not only to the child but all involved.

God says that He disciplines us and He surely does.  Every time we sin He holds us accountable.  He lets us feel the guilt and even the shame in order for lessons to be learned.  He is also merciful and when we show sorrow and contrition no one is quicker than God to heal and forgive.  But He does not hand out forgiveness and mercy without teaching us first.

If we know that God deals with us that way are we not supposed to deal with each other that way as well, especially with our young people?  Let our children grow up by learning through discipline so that their character will develop and they will go on to be good and accountable people of society.  God treats us that way, that we will be holy and to become holy means nothing less than learning and going through the lessons of life, whether we deserve them or not.  Christ did not deserve the Cross, yet He carried it anyway, we deserve our crosses let us be molded and shaped by them so that we are truly sons and daughters of God, “For what “son” is there whom his father does not discipline?”